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The mud. The noise. The quarreling and blaming. Belches that shake the walls. My face showered with runaway spit from ninja-like sound effects.
Sometimes it’s “those” kind of days . . . the days when I wonder what on earth God was thinking when he made me the mother of not one, but two, all-boy boys.
Admittedly, while I love my boys something fierce, there are moments when I think it’s more than I can handle to raise these energetic balls of fire.
And the thing is . . . it is more than I can handle.
That cliche phrase of “God won’t give you more than you can handle” is a bold-face lie.
He continuously gives us more than we can handle because if He didn’t, why on earth would we ever need Him?
I’m not too proud to admit I have more than I can handle when it comes to raising these boys. In fact, I have no idea what I’m doing.
But God does.
So it makes sense to go directly to Him to help us in the raising of His sons to be godly men who fight for His kingdom.
However, those future warriors first need parental warriors who are willing to fight for their developing hearts and the paths they will follow.
There is no better way to fight for our sons than through prayer.
Welcome to Praying for Boys, sisters.
Today we are discussing the Forward and “Boys Are a Battle Zone”…
Overview of the Forward
1. Cliff Graham, author of the Lion of War series, begins the Forward by pointing out it’s bold and courageous, not to mention counter-cultural, to take a stand for our boys through scripture and prayer.
2. He adds that since his wife and he started to pray scripture over their sons, it’s made a difference in how they view them and their world. He stated,”If they grow up knowing that their mother and father are praying Scripture over them, perhaps they will be so conditioned by the training of God’s Word that they will allow it to take root in their core, becomingly fiercely dependent on Christ for all things.” Amen, Cliff.
Overview of “Boys Are a Battle Zone”
1. We are overwhelmed with love for our boys but we can also be overwhelmed with parenting them!
2. Most of us have no idea how to raise godly men and it’s easy to believe there’s something wrong with our boys. Surely, they’re the only ones who act the way they do!? Yet take heed . . .
3. Boys are different from girls: they’re loud, they like to jump from the top bunk, they like to build forts and hide candy, they break toilets and “go” in anything BUT the toilet, they’re adventurous, they are natural-born protectors, they like to shoot things, they shower you with spit when showcasing their sound-effect skills, and they love their mommies and daddies.
4. The beauty and importance of raising up godly men has become lost. Increasingly, churches are filled with men who have no idea what it means to be a man. They define themselves by their jobs, their cars, or anywhere else except in God. It’s time to enter the battle and take back our sons!
5. Eli was a priest who was entrusted to train, teach, and raise three men: his biological sons Hophni and Phinehas, and Samuel, who was the son of Hannah. Samuel, of course, turned out pretty great but Hophni and Phinehas? Not so much. 1 Samuel 2:12 tells us that Eli’s sons were “scoundrels who had no respect for the Lord.” Worse yet, Eli did nothing to stop them. He didn’t have the courage.
6. Today, we see the consequences of those who lack the courage to parent their boys when men choose to leave the church, leave their wives, and throw out the Word of God. They have no idea what it means to be a godly man.
7. The best way to raise godly men? Pray, sister. Pray. In those moments when we are lost, overwhelmed, heartbroken, and seconds away from waving the white flag in defeat, pray.
8. According to Brooke,
Questions for Discussion: (Please pick at least one to answer in the comment section – feel free to answer more!)
1. Why do you think we need to fight for our sons?
2. What kind of man do you want your son to become?
3. Brooke says, “This book is about the God who loves your son more than you do and wants to work in his heart and life in spite of you as you pray and desperately seek Him.” Sometimes I forget that no matter how much I think I love my children, God loves them more. Does this reassure you? How?
We will discuss “What Is Prayer and Why Should We Do It?” next Monday. Happy reading, boy mamas!