For When You Feel Like You’re Doing It Wrong

My husband has an uncanny ability to memorize movie quotes. As in, he can see a movie once and memorize the script within two hours.

I hear movie quotes at least once a day.

For example, just last night, I told him I was incredibly exhausted. A few seconds later, he yawned.

“Are you tired, too?” I asked, innocently enough.

He then went into a two minute snippet from the movie Tombstone that involved the line “Are you retired, too?” He even looked it up on You Tube so I could see the clip he was talking about. This is my life, people.

One of my favorite quotes is from the movie, Mr. Mom. It’s an oldie but still very much a goodie.

Michael Keaton plays Jack Butler, a father who loses his job. His wife must support the family and has to go on a business trip so Jack’s in charge of caring for the children full-time. This includes taking them to school in the morning.

As soon as he starts pulling into his children’s school, they inform him he’s “doing it wrong.” Multiple times.

He insists it doesn’t matter and they are going to do drop-off by following the “Jack Bulter Method.”

And then Annette, someone who works at the school, informs him he’s doing it wrong.

I’ve included the clip below because really . . . You just need to watch it.

But the thing is . . . sometimes I hear Annette’s voice telling me I’m doing it wrong.

“Hi, Natalie. I’m Annette. You’re doing it wrong.”

Because here’s the other thing: sometimes I am doing it wrong – but not in the way that really matters.

Some days, I hear Annette’s voice because I get so hung-up on being the mom I was supposed to be. Or the mom I think I should be. Or the mom I think everyone wants me to be.

Yet that’s not the stuff that determines my success.

On those days when I feel like Jack Butler in the carpool drop-off line, I can start going down a dangerous road.

A road that leads to self-doubt. Fear. Insecurity. Comparison. All kinds of yuck.

But then I go to the truth, to what God says is real and not what the world says is real.

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10

Some days, Annette is correct. I am doing it wrong because I’m allowing others to determine my success.

We cannot serve two masters so we must decide if we’re going to allow human beings to rule over us or God.

And while sometimes I forget who I’m following and have to check myself before I wreck myself, I still know that His thoughts are not our thoughts and his ways are not our ways. His ways and thoughts are much, much higher.

So while I’m not a betting woman, I’m going with the one whose ways are the highest. The one with the better track-record.

I’m going to listen to what He says is true of me and not what others, including myself, say is true of me.

Because when we’re rooted in truth and understand who we are in His eyes, it doesn’t matter what the others say about us.

This, my friends, is doing it right.

What about you? Do you ever feel like you’re doing it all wrong?