Sweet friends, I have had the pleasure to get to know this gem of a woman over the past few years . . . Lynn Cowell is passionate about raising up our girls to be emotionally healthy and secure in who they are in His eyes. Her new book, Magnetic, is a must for all teen/preteen girls (Moms, there is also a leadership guide included that will assist you in working through this book with your daughter). Please welcome Lynn and be sure to comment for a chance to win your own copy of this great book!
I waited so long to have this time with my girls; our weekend away was finally here! So excited for this special road trip with them and their friends, one girl called out, “Selfie!”
Snap! I made sure I got my smile onto the tiny screen just in time. With a giggle, my girl lovingly laughed from the back seat. “Mom, you always find a way to get in there!”
The selfie . . . that famous snapshot taken by over one million people a day. That spontaneous picture taken to capture…
To capture what?
Sometimes, like the road trip shot, it’s to capture a special moment and the people we love. Other times, I wonder if it’s more than that.
My daughter’s tease gets me thinking. Do I always find a way to get in on what is going on? If I do, why?
Do I turn these selfie moments into an opportunity to make the moment about me? Shift attention toward me?
I wondered about myself: Shouldn’t I be way past this? To the point where I want to make each moment about others and not about me?
I think sometimes the young girl we once were, the one who wanted to be noticed, who looked for the boy’s attention, or needed the parent’s approval is not completely gone. Maybe there is a side of me still wanting acceptance and acceptance is seen through attention.
This thought makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want to be that woman. I want to be the woman who reflects love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control – the true beauty listed in Galatians 5:22-23. A beauty that isn’t about me, but about serving and loving others first.
I not only want that kind of true beauty for me; I want it for my daughters as well.
And to get there, I’m going to have to die first.
Die to me.
Die to the me who is all about me.
When I die to me, another woman can be born. A woman whose beauty is found in the love she gives, the joy she lives and the peace when she forgives. The woman who makes life and love about others. That woman is truly beautiful.
Romans 6:6 encourages me. Because of the work Jesus did on the cross, I can become this beautiful woman: “For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin.”
Christ died so I don’t have to struggle with the sin of my self-centeredness; the pull to make life about me. Christ’s new life in me means I no longer have to be a slave to needing attention. I can confidently put the spotlight on others and be genuinely happy.
And here is the twist: The woman who possesses this type of beauty, who chooses others above herself is hard to find, but easy to spot. Though she doesn’t seek attention, attention comes to her. Through becoming the woman God wants, she has become magnetic.
Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing truth Mag
In celebration of the release of Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants, we’re giving away TWO copies!!! To be entered to win, leave a comment letting us know why you would like to read Lynn’s latest book. I’ll announce the winner on Thursday morning!
Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including her newest Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants. Her passion in speaking and writing is empowering wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything combining chocolate and peanut butter.