Please welcome Bethany Grove from Gracefull Country Diva! Thank you, Bethany, for writing today’s post!

Parenting . . . the task of raising little people into productive adults.

Life was great when they were little, right? All their “firsts” brought me such joy. Each little thing they did was so cute and I loved watching the light bulbs turn-on when they learned something new.

Things were great and life seemed easy – but then, they grew-up and things weren’t always so easy.

Growing up means more issues and sometimes those issues are easy to solve. But sometimes they aren’t.

One of the hardest parts of being a parent is fighting the urge to jump-in and fix your child’s problems. It’s easy to get defensive, protective and even confrontational.

Yes, I have felt all of these feelings before. There have been times I’ve had to stay away from issues and people just so I could let my kids handle things because if I stepped in . . . well, let’s just say it wouldn’t have been pretty.

When my kids are in pain my motherly instinct kicks-in because I want to make it better and take it away. I want to see smiles on my children’s faces again. I want everything to be OK.

After all, they’re my babies and I can’t stand to see them hurting.

However, sometimes it’s just not possible to fix what is hurting your child.

Sometimes you have to surrender your children to God and let Him take over. He always has a plan and His will is always done, regardless of the age of our children.

I don’t think the feeling of wanting to fix what is hurting my children will stop when they’re adults – even when I surrender them to God. I’m only human and my protective feelings for them will never change.

In Chapter Two of Not a Silent Night, Mary watches her son experience extreme torture then be crucified like a common criminal.

This wasn’t easy for her but somehow, she put her feelings aside and surrendered her son to God. She didn’t understand His will but she trusted His plan – much like she did when she told Gabriel “May it be so” after hearing she would give birth to the Messiah.

But her trust in His plan didn’t squelch the emotions swirling around in her mama heart.

As a fellow mother, I’m certain she felt guilty and helpless because there was nothing she could do to stop the events of that day.

Maybe she felt angry because someone had betrayed her son and others were torturing him.

Perhaps she felt nostalgic because she was thinking back to what she pondered in her heart on the day He was born.

She likely felt pain as she watched the Roman soldiers drive nails into the palms of her son.

She most certainly felt love because once a mother loves, it never stops. Jesus was her son, her own flesh and blood, no matter why he was sent to this earth.

Lastly, I’m sure she felt hopeful because she knew her son’s death would fulfill God’s promise – the promise that He will save the world.

This array of emotions scream from the hearts of mothers everywhere.

In this chapter, author Adam Hamilton points-out that Mary was warned she would inevitably feel this way and her son was meant to die.

“When Mary took Jesus to Simeon he told her that “This child is destined for the falling and rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be opposed so that the inner thoughts of many will be revealed – and a sword will pierce your own soul too.” (Luke 2:34-35)

I’m sure her mind went back to this time while she watched her son hang on the cross. She must have finally understood what Simeon was trying to tell her.

But the one thing she probably never understood was how her son’s sacrifice would offer salvation and peace to the world. I’m sure she wasn’t feeling much peace as she watched Him being crucified.

During Jesus’ time, the Greeks and Romans sacrificed animals to receive blessings while the Jews sacrificed animals to atone for their sins and offer thanksgiving. They sacrificed animals to obtain salvation.

However, Jesus was meant to be the ultimate sacrifice for our sins. No longer would innocent animals need to shed blood for atonement or thanksgiving. He took-on every sin we could ever commit and shed His own blood so we could be free.

But here’s the real question . . .

What does Jesus’ death have to do with his birth?

He was born to die. He came to earth to be the sacrificial lamb meant to atone for all of our sins.

 As Hamilton says, “The profound gift of Christmas is our salvation and forgiveness.”

Without Jesus on the cross, we would never be saved and if He had never been born, he would not have been on the cross.

A baby was sent to this earth to grow into a wonderful teacher. Later, he would be tortured and pierced by nails, left to hang on a cross so  we could all be saved.

We must first understand why Jesus was sent to the world to fully understand the gravity of his birth. Without completely understanding the cross, his birth means nothing.

Mary was beyond blessed to raise Him but she had to do the one thing every mother dreads – surrender her son to His Father just so He could die.

Her own amazing sacrifice led to the rescue of the world.

So this week, please respond to one or as many of the following in the comment section:


1. Mary surrendered her son to God even though it was very difficult. Do you think you would be able to do the same if it was asked of you?

2. Why do you think it’s so hard for people to fully understand Jesus’ work on the cross?

3. Does thinking of Jesus’ purpose change how you view the Christmas story? How so?

4. What is something else that stood out to you from Chapter Two?

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