I don’t know about you but it’s really difficult sometimes to know what to do and what not to do.

The old adage that 20% of the people do 80% of the work is true. It’s not a myth.

When we commit to everything, when we say “yes” without praying before committing then we can pretty much guarantee we’ll end up being tired, ticked-off and totaled.

Not to mention, if we say “yes” to something we really don’t want to do, then we are depriving someone else of the opportunity to do something they really WANT to do.

And listen here, sister: NO. GUILT.

In case you didn’t know this about me, I obtained my PhD in People Pleasing about, oh, 40 years ago.

I’m trying to turn it back in because, truthfully, it’s exhausting.

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10

Preach it, Paul.

The thing is . . . You were created to do something for God. He instilled a passion within you for a certain population of people. For me, it’s women. For you, maybe it’s animals. Or abused children. Or victims of domestic abuse.

There is so much need and God has equipped each of us with a different passion for a different population.

He also equipped us with different gifts to serve those populations we’re passionate about.

When we know who makes us tick and what God has gifted us with, then we have a sieve in which all commitments can pass through.

But when we don’t know this information or we are worried about offending or hurting someone, we say “yes” to far too much and it comes at a great cost – the cost of your energy and mental health.

Which, if you’re like me, makes those you love the very most suffer for your own inability to say “no.”

I know, I know. Don’t think for one second I’m calling you out because I’m calling ME out.

So what I’m saying is . . .

Join us as we study Lysa TerKeurst’s book,The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands.

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